For years, I wondered what my life purpose was, what my calling was, especially in business. I’ve always known that I was good at marketing, but I knew I was here for something bigger than I could dream, yet I couldn’t figure out what that was.
I’ll admit I had a sometimes painful upbringing and early adulthood, and I always wondered WHY this was all happening to me. If there’s supposed to be a reason for everything, then why did I have so many deeply trying times? What was I supposed to do with all of it?
I just couldn’t figure it out.
Thankfully, I was watching Oprah regularly (still do!) and took to heart her saying, “Use your life.” She suggests that we look for the meaning in things that happen to us, then turn around and do something useful with it.
“Living your best life is to find out what your calling is. Your real job on Earth is to find out what you were meant to be doing and to find a way to do that thing.”
You don’t need to wallow in your experiences. Instead, use them and your learning to help others, to make a difference, to create change.
THAT is your life purpose. THAT is your calling.
Since those days of wondering, I’ve realized why all of the things in my life have happened to me (even the “bad” stuff) AND why I’m here. I have learned to overcome my once very low self-esteem, negative beliefs and playing small, to have more confidence and really go for what I want in life. I have also learned about having compassion for others (including my clients), to know that we all have painful experiences that shape who we are today.
We all have fears and things holding us back, but these don’t need to keep us stuck.
We also all have massive potential for success, and to make a difference, especially being self-employed. It’s just a question of getting out of our own way and then getting out there in a BIG way.
To make that difference, the world needs to hear from you! That’s where marketing comes in – it’s absolutely crucial. You were given a gift, so you need to tell people about it and start helping people get results.
Once you have marketing systems in place, the ‘calling’ piece of it also extends to the other stuff that you might never think of: increasing your confidence, then getting out of your own way and into your true success. It’s already IN you – you probably just haven’t accessed it fully yet (especially if you’re a woman).
You might notice this in the way you play too small, limit your dreams, feel undeserving of the things you desire and have fears that may or may not reflect reality.
When you’re coming from your ‘calling’, you make a more substantial difference which translates to more success, more income and greater impact.This then means that clients get better results, give you amazing testimonials and more referrals. It’s a positive spiral that benefits you, your clients and the world.
If you’re puzzled about your calling and don’t know where to start, look for these clues:
- What section of the bookstore do you hang around in the most?
- Look around you for signs about your purpose. They’re everywhere if you look for them. Little happy coincidences aren’t coincidences at all. They’re ALL signs.
- If you act upon the signs and take inspired action, you’ll expedite your journey to living your purpose.
- What comes easily to you, helps others AND makes you feel good at the same time? If something brings you joy (for me, it’s teaching and inspiring entrepreneurs to get out of their own way, play BIGGER and live a rich life), then it’s something to pursue.
Once you’ve found your calling, start weaving it into your everyday client work, or start doing it a little at a time. There’s no need for a complete 180…test out the waters and check in with how you FEEL. Look for the subtle feedback, adding more little by little, so that it feels authentic to you.
As you keep going, add even more of it until it feels really good and you’ll notice a difference in your clients’ results and how they relate to you. Start weaving it in your talks, your webinars, your social media posts and your articles. When it feels right, you can start adding it permanently to your marketing materials. That’s what I’ve done.
Your calling is to help others AND to feel good doing it. Once you find it, throw yourself into it. Success, clients and increased revenues will naturally come to you when you do. You won’t believe you get paid to live it. I’m still pinching myself!
If you were shouting “Yes, yes, that’s me!” when you were reading this and wondering about the quickest way to tap into your calling, I have something for you. I’m running the last ever UK/European virtual Mindset Retreat at the end of the month. It’s designed to help you find your life purpose and your inner joy over three full days.
It’s you, me and a loving community of other women (and men who lead with their hearts) who want to make a difference in the world. Will you join us?
I hope you’ll be there with me. I’d love to help you share your calling with the world. xo