Sometimes my clients tell me fear of failure is holding them back from getting started. They feel stuck or frozen around their business and battling this causes them to miss deadlines, and avoid decisions and standing up for what they want.
I want to share a fantastic book with you that changed the way I look at myself. It’s called The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi. In the first few chapters, you’ll learn that your accomplishments do not dictate your worth. Your worthiness cannot be touched. You are worthy from the moment you were born. You are valuable and nothing can ever touch that.
This is so helpful if one of your greatest fears is the fear of failure. You are just as worthy if you fail at business as if you succeed. If you make money or don’t, you are worthy.
We all have a life purpose and the only way we can achieve it is if we learn our life lesson. You can guess what my life lesson is because it takes one to know one right? This applies to self-value and self-worth especially around money. I’ve been working for a long time on this.
You could stop yourself from being your most glorious expression of your purpose here on earth. The fear of failure could stop you, or you could say, “Forget that. Let’s do it! I’m going to do this no matter what.”
If you don’t try, I guarantee you’re not going to succeed. In the Northeast, the Lottery tag line for a long time was, “You’ve got to be in it to win it.” So if you try, you actually have a chance. If you get out there despite those creepy, ugly fears, you have the opportunity to make something happen.
Think about it this way. If God were speaking to you about this, would God say, “You can’t do this”…not likely, right? So why would you listen to anyone but God, the Universe or your higher power? When you hear these fears come up in your mind, acknowledge them and then refute it. Say, “You are not God, the Universe or my higher power and I will not listen to you. Quiet down, because I know who to listen to.”
Successful people feel fear too. I feel fear all the time. It doesn’t go away, but I’ve realized it is the ego talking. It wants to keep you small so you stay safe because the ego focuses on survival. But you can’t share your gifts with the world if you stay small. You are worthy, you are valuable and you are needed, so get busy.
Your Client Attraction Assignment
If you are stuck due to the fear of failure, push yourself to wake up when you hear those negative inner thoughts. Stop for a moment to realize this is not in your best interest. Say to the negative voice, “You are not God, the Universe or my higher power and I will not listen to you. Quiet down, because I know who to listen to.” Then remind yourself that you are worthy, you are valuable and you are needed. You‘ll be surprised how remarkably empowering this one step really is.
Now, if you’re just starting out and trying to fill your practice in the FIRST place, then follow a step-by-step system that feels easy and authentic to you. The Client Attraction System® gives you the most important things to do to set up simple, solid systems, so that you consistently fill your pipeline and continually get new clients. It’s all step-by-step, not a big mishmash of things. So, you do step one of the system, and when you’re done with that, you move on to step two, and so on. All the tools, scripts, templates, and examples are handed to you on a silver platter. Easy. You can get it at TheClientAttractionSystem.com.
Fabienne, thank you for this. I am sitting here sobbing the tears you get when you know you’ve just read something that reminds you of who you really are. You are an inspiration. A teacher and a healer through business. Thank you for working on your own fears to be able to show us how it is done…:) Love one of your Goldies! xo
Hugs to you Jill! That was such a sweet note, and I’m so glad that it was the right message for you at just the right time :)