So, this is a first here. You may not expect this.
And neither did Fabienne. ;)
I’m taking over today’s blog.
You may not know this, but she, Derek and their 3 kids are in Greece this week, enjoying some downtime in Santorini before they host the epic 3-day Mindset Retreat in 2 weeks.Hi. My name is Kiva.
You may be wondering…who is Kiva and what is she doing here?
Well, I’ve had the privilege of working alongside (and very very closely with) Fabienne at Boldheart for the last three years.
I am now a Master Coach here at Boldheart and that gives me an inside view of what it’s really like to be with Fabienne.
Working directly with Fabienne, I see her with her hair pulled up in a ponytail with no makeup on, I’ve spent time strategizing with her, creating epic life-changing programs (each of us giddy for the results people will get), I’ve cried with her, and I’ve spent countless evenings in her home with her family, having late-night talks in yoga pants sipping red wine.
I’ve seen sides of Fabienne you will likely never see, and here’s what I can tell you:
Fabienne’s commitment to showing up with the best she has for you, for our Boldheart Business members, for women entrepreneurs (and the few good men who are bold enough to learn from a powerful woman) and for the world…
…is breathtaking. You have no idea.
How did I get here, working so closely with her, when she has barely shared the stage with ANYONE because she protects you so much?
Well, ten years ago I was exactly where you may be now.
I was getting my coaching certification and my coaching school promoted a call on “Getting all of the clients you want, in record time,” hosted by some woman named Fabienne. (I had no idea who she was.)
As a new coach, though, my focus was definitely on getting clients, so of course I signed up.
I was blown away. Wow, I loved her message. It was honest and authentic, it was highly practical, and like nothing I’d heard before about getting clients. Who the heck was this woman??
She proposed a course at the end of the call and I happily bought it: Client Attraction In A Box (or something like that). It was THE thing that started what became my extremely successful, multi-6-figure business.
I ended up spending that entire weekend with Fabienne winning me over on video, teaching me about marketing in a way that no one had ever taught me about marketing before.
Here’s the thing she didn’t realize she was also doing:
She was pregnant with her third child (now Oliver) in the videos, but that didn’t stop her. Beyond listening to her do her “marketing teaching” thing, I was watching her do her “unapologetically living a good life while changing lives” thing.
Without saying a word about her personal life (balancing running a very successful business with a happy marriage and having soon-to-be 3 kids), Fabienne showed me that what I wanted for my business as a woman and a mother was actually possible.
She had “cracked the code,” as men say in our industry.
Deep in my heart, I wanted to have a thriving career like hers with the capacity to be with my children in a way that my own ambitious mother (who is still, at age 70, a prominent and extremely respected New York newspaper journalist) could not.
I love my mother, and at the time, she wasn’t able to be with me while growing her career the way Fabienne has been able to be with her own children.
My business grew from her teachings, and I moved on, but I never forgot Fabienne.
Several years later, I ran into her (quite literally) at an event. In the bathroom. (You can’t make this up.)
I feel like such a groupie telling you this, but I ran after her when I saw her go into the bathroom.
When I reached her, I psycho-fan-body-hugged her with tears in my eyes.
“Fabienne, you don’t know me, but you have changed my life!!!!”
Apparently she didn’t think I was too crazy, because she gave me a big hug back, smiled sweetly and said, “Thank you, that makes me so happy. What’s your name? Tell me about you.”
And here we are all of these years later, working together to change thousands of lives each year at Boldheart:
Today, after many years of running my own multi-6-figure business (and creating and selling millions and millions of dollars worth of programs) I get to mentor and teach our Growth Track members at Boldheart on the very things that Fabienne first introduced to me all of those years ago (while adding all the things that I’m uniquely talented at).
It’s kind of miracle-y, right, to go from a bathroom hug to working with her directly?
I’ve often wondered how I got here and why it’s me that gets to stand on the stage with Fabienne Fredrickson, the woman who gave me the keys to the life that I wanted more than anything.
I used to think it was fate. And maybe that’s the spiritual explanation of it.
But being a practical person, I’ve also boiled it down to three things I’d like to teach you today (while Fabienne is in Greece):
ONE: Follow the YES
Life has a bigger plan for you than you can possibly have for yourself.
But we allow our human minds to talk us out of the very gifts that the universe is putting in front of us to take us to that bigger plan.
Learning to recognize and trust your YES will lead you to places you never dreamed you’d go (as it has for me and Fabienne).
TWO: Stay humble
Here’s what I can tell you a decade into being self-employed:
As soon as you think you have it figured out…you don’t.
I talk often about the idea of keeping your forehead humbly on the floor. Figuratively speaking, of course.
What I mean by this is that we must remain aware of that which we don’t know and the places we still get to grow. We’re never too cool for school if we want to grow.
Staying humble is not diminishing our worth. It’s actually the opposite. It’s about embracing our worth so intimately that we no longer need to prove it.
THREE: Know that it’s not ever going to look like what you think it will look like
Take off your blinders. If you can only see a path to success that is the one you think, expect and plan for, chances are you will miss out on huge amounts of opportunity and financial abundance.
Because everything is energy, and energy is non-linear, that means that business is also non-linear.
For example, if you execute a marketing initiative, say, sending out a warm-letter campaign (which is something we teach in the Growth Track), you’ll suddenly get an inquiry about your work from an old colleague who didn’t get the letter.
Some would think of that as a coincidence, but it’s not. You put out energy (in the form of sending letters) and it came back (in the form of synchronicity).
This is how it works. It never looks like what you think it will, even when you’re generating millions a year in your business. (Ask Fabienne about this the next time you have a chance. I’m *pretty* sure she’ll confirm.)
Everything you want is possible. Getting it requires 3 things: 1) dreaming bigger, 2) trusting and having faith that it will come to you, and 3) seeking the expert help you need to learn to get there. That’s why we are here, Fabienne and I, to help you get everything you want in life and from your business.
Sending you much love and gratitude for the opportunity to be with you this Saturday morning. Fabienne will be back with another one of her inspiring videos next week.
Hugs until next time,
P.S. Now you know me a bit, so when you do take the leap and join us in the Growth Track at Boldheart, we won’t be strangers anymore.
I am an expert at getting you to 10K a month consistently. That’s why I teach at Boldheart.
Perhaps you’d like to explore what it looks like to get to 10K a month with Fabienne and me?
We want to hear about your dreams, what you’re currently struggling with, and help you map out a plan. And if we get to be with you on that journey to 10K a month, we’d be so happy.
All it takes is one phone call.
You can book that free call here.
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